wa alaikom assalam… barak Allaho feek for your beautiful comment and advice… I appreciate your time in typing all of that… jazak Allah khair akhi. I agree… it’s time for me to focus on getting that ’300′ body I’ve been wanting… hehe

Bro!
wallahi I know how you feel I have experienced love, and lost it…
I know about not being able to eat, sleep or even smile. I too had several ends with that woman I loved.. although alhamdullelah I never touched her… it was still hard to depart.. I literally use to weep, and I never had cried like that before and I doubt I ever will, I remember once crying in sujood for about an hour so that Allah guides this woman and we be together..

what can I say.. I had become depressed and lost about 14 to 16 kilograms.. I became skinny… I wasnt interested in having any fun yet even as you say have a relationship with any woman (halal or haram).. alhamdulelah I have never commited any major sin..I started looking sick.. my pants were too loose,, but I had to get my act together…I knew as a muslim that whatever Allah decrees is good yet staghfar Allah deep in my heart I had resented what Allah decreed.. and I think it was a very good lesson for me early in my life am 24 now this waas from 05 to 06.

I started working out.. since I wanted to put on some weight but muscle.. so ever since summer 06 Ive been working out on and off and from that point alhamdullelah wa mashaAllah wa Allahu Akbar i have gained about 35Kgs
and its keeping me very strong.. I am also at cross roads right now in a relationship and I dont know what Allah has for me.. but this time am much more stronger.. I fell in love again and though I never expected it to happen..
it was simply outside the my reality.. like you said through events outside of your control…

but this time I dont resent what Allah has for me.. before accepting it and accepting His will subhanahu wa ta3aala whole heartedly without a single drop of doubt.. and I think alhamdullleah I have learned my lesson, a gear one but in a very hard way..and I say alhamdullelah that Allah has made go through that..

bro ista3in bella wa laa ta3jazz wa ruba daratin nafi3ah

“Strange is the affair of the Mu’min (the believer). Verily, all his affairs are good for him. If something pleasing befalls him he thanks (Allah) and it becomes better for him. And if something harmful befalls him he is patient (saabir) and it becomes better for him. And this is only for the Mu’min.”

I also ask you to “ta2khuth bel asbaab” and try to find yourself a gym
and start working out like a mad dawg. it helps! and I talked to another bro who is a bodbuilder and he says the same thing.. it is recommended.. the endorphins that it releases in your body are natural weed so to speak lol..
who knows maybe you ll end up having 21 inch arms

check out http://www.bodybuilding.com and read magazines “Flex” and “Muscle and Fitness”

it takes time to heal dont rush into anyother relationship.. and take your 3ebada easily moderatly.. and start bodybuilding!

wa Allah ma3ak.

Thank you again… I take both your comments to heart.

@ 8bits… you’re absolutely right… I’m not the type to settle. *sigh

I don’t find you the type to settle, I think, for if you do will you be fair to her? Or will you benchmark her against Rose? And I believe she’ll fall short of such level. Why not give it a little time, not pursue, just have things take its course. الله يعينك